Whether it slowly creeps in or drops down like a bomb, most couples go through periods of despair. Everyday life experiences filled with demands and activities out of our control can harm relationships slowly or suddenly. We seek out partnership as an anchoring force. Safety (emotional, physical and social) is at the heart of connected, intimate relationships.
Restoring relationships in the safety of a therapeutic setting involves acquiring new skills to rebuild intimacy. Couples counseling is designed to be as impactful as possible in a brief amount of time.
Positive Parenting: Families
Your parents raised you to become a productive and loving adult. Have you noticed that the familiar parenting styles are not producing the same results your parents experienced? Technology has altered the structure of families and has modified the ways in which our brains process information and feelings.
Positive parenting skills-building seeks to balance responding to the rapid fire demands while remaining grounded in thoughtful actions. With the support of therapy, parents can examine their family values and design behavioral expectations that make sense. Using a family-centered approach, we will create a parenting plan that fits the developmental stages and unique personalities of your children.
Has your child been singled out as having social, emotional and/or cognitive issues? As a therapist, I have supported many families and children struggling to maintain equilibrium. School avoidance, oppositional/defiant behaviors, social anxiety and ADHD can be managed effectively through using enhanced strategies.
Parenting after a split-up is rarely easy. Even within the most embattled dynamics pathways exist to reach co-parenting without conflict. Volumes of research indicate the quality of co-parenting will impact your child's development. Equal amounts of research find that children want to be free to love, respect and value both parents. Children who are able to navigate a divorce without direct and repeated experiences of conflict are able to adjust with confidence and security.
Co-Parenting sessions are time-limited, designed to provide strategies, boundaries, and communication tools. It is recommended that parents attend together to practice new skills in the safe space of a therapist's office.
Teens and Tweens Therapy
Do you feel: Stressed out? Angry? Lonely? Depressed? Exhausted? Ugly? Stupid? Scared? Do these feelings get in the way of your life? You may want to consider solution-focused therapy to grow into the person you want to be. I work with people ages 12-20 to help them figure out what they want in life and how to reach their goals in a open, nonjudgmental space. We look at what stands in your way and how to take action to overcome obstacles.
Relationships with friends and parents may cause problems and you have the power to change how the relationships work. From drama to bullying to fighting with parents, you cannot force others to change but you can deal with difficult people in a way that will be more comfortable for you. You can find your own voice and speak out in effective ways.
Extreme emotions like anxiety, depression, fear and anger may cause you to act in ways that are not helping you and maybe hurting others. You can learn how manage strong emotions permanently.
Therapy for young people has the power to change the course of your life experience and I would be honored to support you in the process.
Children: Social & Emotional Issues
When a parent witnesses their child struggle in school, with friends or in family experiences it can be a soul crushing and all consuming. You may notice a pattern of concerning behaviors or worry that a life event has become too overwhelming for your child.
Several developmentally appropriate interventions are available to support your child's ability to navigate their daily experience with more ease. Child therapy sessions are rooted in a balance of strengthening areas of their developing brains with the experiential aspects of play therapy, sensory therapy and expressive art therapy. I work in partnership with parents to assess a child's needs and to provide a coping skills toolkit.
Much of the time we forget to consider ourselves. Our days are stacked with activity, obligations and responding to others. Taking one hour a week to sit, be heard and re-center seems almost unattainable, yet it is crucial.
Difficult emotions of stress, sadness, anger can shade our decision-making and cause the unwanted feelings to grow stronger. Individual therapy provides the time and space to clarify your goals and become more grounded in how you respond to your world.
In times of life changes (becoming a parent, becoming single, career shifts, empty nesting, etc), a safe therapeutic relationship can strengthen your transition and growth.
Supporting you to engage in a life experience that feels more comfortable is achievable through a range of appropriate, impactful interventions designed to fit you.
Adoption: Attachment & Beyond
Navigating the adoption process seems to involve a million logistical decisions while the emotional impact of decision-making can become lost. Taking time to examine choices and action steps along the way can provide an easier adaptation to becoming a family.
Babies are born with genetic patterning that reflects generational and prenatal trauma and stress. Disruptions can emerge at any point in childhood and often attachment fractures can be pinpointed to pre-verbal or prenatal experiences. We will address and secure issues that support attachment to your family in developmentally appropriate ways.
Responding to adopted children, teens and young adults with specific concerns and questions can be a painful experience. Transracial and transnational are points of sensitivity for both child and parent.
With many years experience in working with adoptive and foster care families, the best approaches to managing struggles emerge if we follow the individual nature of your children and the values within your family.
Trauma & Complicated Grief
Everyone responds to trauma, loss and death differently. When an adverse event begins to color your experience of life in overwhelmingly dark ways, it may be time to embrace support from a therapist.
Our brains are designed to store memories in a region that allows us to manage distressing thoughts. At times, the memories become "stuck" causing images, thoughts and feelings associated with fear and pain to take over, haunt and disable us. The goal of therapy is to move memories into the their proper place in the brain.
Working in the trauma field has taught me about Post-traumatic Growth. I have witnessed the power of many children, adolescents and adults emerging from trauma and loss with newly acquired strength and wisdom. Partnering with you to navigate a comfortable pathway out of pain would be an honor.
Groups & Workshops
DBT for Teens & Parents: 16 week group focusing on improving understanding and promoting respectful relationships in the home. One or both caregivers plus teens ages 12-18 attend together.
SPARCS: Structured Psychotherapy for Adolescents Responding to Chronic Stress. Combining dialectical behavioral therapy and social skills building for boys and girls ages 12-16.
Co-Parenting: Bootcamp for separating and divorced parents seeking support in developing powerful approaches to reaching consensus and peaceful communication while parenting their children.